Self help tactics come in a myriad of forms. Sometimes they require tremendous effort and energy just to stay focused. Sometimes, however, all we need to do is implement small and more gradual changes, changes that require much less energy but that in the long run accomplish the same purpose.
The importance of positive thinking and self-esteem cannot be overestimated. As you pursue your life goals and try to improve yourself, you cannot allow yourself to be defeated by past guilt or false, self-destructive beliefs. Replace thoughts of yourself as “a failure” or “a loser,” with positive beliefs like “I am on the right track,” and “I will succeed this time.”
Artistic expression often allows us to unlock positive parts of our personality we thought were buried. Whether you channel your emotions through painting, music, writing or some other form of art, these activities remind you of your natural talent and capability. By rediscovering your creativity, you equip yourself to succeed in other areas of life and reinforce your self-confidence and sense of ability.
Try to maintain a positive outlook. An upbeat attitude can do wonders for your mood. Consciously try your hardest not to let yourself get too overwhelmed, anxious, or depressed – no matter what the problem. Just telling yourself that things will be alright can sometimes keep you feeling upbeat long enough to succeed in making that true.
For people with serious problems, therapy may be the best answer. Sometimes it takes a professional, outside perspective to identify the real source of a problem and this cannot be found in self-help books. Sometimes, the best solution comes about through the simple act of talking with a trained therapist. You can’t have a discussion with a book.
One awesome self help tip to help with anxiety is to go to a concert with a friend or small group. Concerts are great places to meet people and socialize but if things get to be a little much, you can just sit back and enjoy the music without any awkward social situations.
To access your subconscious mind and find hidden solutions to your problems and questions, write in your journal each night before bed. Write about your day and ask yourself, in writing, how you might have improved problematic situations. Once you have written your questions, let them go. Your subconscious mind will unravel them overnight and may present you with an answer in the morning!
Make the most of your anger by consuming it productively with intense physical exercise. Increased levels of physical activity can stimulate the release of feel-good endorphins and other chemicals in your brain that will have a relaxing effect. After a brisk walk or run, you may find that you are more capable of discussing matters more rationally and peacably.
If we truly desire to change, we must depend on ourselves to effect that change. Indeed, we have to make deliberate and calculated efforts to insure it. Anything less only assures our failure. The steps delineated above pave the way towards change. It is up to us to follow that pavement.