Parenting can be a difficult process to describe. Every household changes from one person to the next, based on tradition, religion, and any number of other factors. The dynamic posed by placing sometimes radically different people in an environment and telling them to raise a child is by nature unpredictable. This article, however, can lend some useful tips that can almost universally be applied to good parenting.
Sometimes, unpleasant disciplinary actions must be handed down. “First, feelings; then discipline,” is a highly effective approach that begins with a positive statement that acknowledges the child’s feelings (right or wrong) and then explains your reason for setting the disciplinary consequences. This can help reduce the levels of resentment following the action.
When your child goes to the doctor’s office, be sure to tell the nurse or doctor if your son or daughter is taking any kind of over-the-counter vitamin or mineral supplement. Even though these products do not require a prescription, they can interact with or decrease the absorption of prescription antibiotics or other medications.
Even if your sick child begins to show signs of feeling better after a few days of antibiotics, you should follow the doctor’s orders exactly and finish the course of therapy. If your child does not finish the entire dosing plan, weakened bacteria may remain in his or system and become resistant to the antibiotics.
You must avoid losing your authority no matter what. Once your children realize that there is really nothing backing up what you say it can be difficult to regain control. In addition to this, you shouldn’t lose your cool in front your kids. If you feel it is unavoidable, send them to their room and calm yourself down however possible.
If you have trouble getting your child to not do something, it is generally best to specifically instruct them to do something else. For example, if you do not want your child to run down the stairs, instead of stating “don’t run,” it is better to state “please walk down the stairs.” When told not to do something, a child is more likely to instinctively ignore the instruction. Also, it avoids situations where the child might decide to be clever and jump down the stairs instead.
When disciplining your children, ensure you are NOT angry. Words said out of anger can last a lifetime with your child, hurting them in ways you can’t imagine. If you get mad, walk away for a bit until you calm down, then deal with your child. This will make your relationship less contentious.
One of the best ways to discipline a child is by putting them in time-out. Stopping them in their tracks and putting them in a spot like a corner will teach them that they cannot do certain things. Before actually putting them in time-out, give them a warning. Then, if they continue to do this behavior, follow through with your threat.
No method is objectively the best. People disagree over parenting styles all the time, some favor strict households while others believe it’s best to treat their children as adults and grant them their freedom as such. Hopefully this article helped to advise a few wayward parents who seek direction when it comes to their model for raising a child.